I finally officially broke up with Shrirang. I thought I would be depressed but instead happy and relaxed. God did show me the path I guess. My prayers were answered. I was anxious, lost and depressed initially as there decision was hanging. I was looking for yes or no answer. But they need more time and I think if you like someone you don't take time its either you like or you don't. I mean I dated for 10 months and I need some closure. But I guess everything would be fine. My sister was right I was following rule book and was adjusting myself to get accepted which I don't need to. Finally I am free from all bandheshein and happy to live my life. Relationship should be beautiful and treasured they shouldn't be roller coater ride and it should happen with flow. I thought we had some future but its ok shit happens we should learn to live.
"No matter what I go through, he might be having fun, and I am dying everyday" so further steps to mend my broken heart."
1. Learn to let go. Who are destined to be in your life will stay. And those who won't will go eventually one day
2. Friends. They will help you moving on from things that are pulling you backwards
3. Get that: Human life is full of struggles and experiences. It will be tough, it will always be tough. Learn to live through it. Life will never be easy. You need to be strong to take blows that life offers you frequently
4. Make Big Goals: The bigger the goal is, the more bigger your perspective be. And eventually it will help you to move towards positive things
5. Try getting new hobby
6. Focus on getting rich. Start watching motivational videos on YouTube. It helps a lot. You think in a better direction, get focused towards the things that genuinely matter
7. Success is best positive thing anyone can ever have in their life. Start thinking about the times when you would be successful and how good life would be. Put in the hard-work and things would change.
8. Learn to forgive but do not forget. Forgiveness will help you move on. Do not forget, as it will help you having a good experience to achieve move in your life
Someone answered this on Quora:
"First of all he is not a man, because he is just showing what he wants to and hiding the rest which he can't control. Trust me there is nothing which a man can't handle. And if you love someone than commitment is pretty obvious, I don't get it why people can't give commitment even when they say they love.
Actually love has become very vague these days. Isn't it strange that you love someone badly but you don't wanna marry her/him. How pity this is. And what type of love is it when you yourself are not willing to spend your life with your love, you are giving up before the actual arrival of the hurdles which is actually lame.
Trust me this is not a quality inherited by a real man. Do make a check whether he actually does or he just pretends it so well that it is difficult to catch him. Because if he does he will do anything to have you, rather an excuse to loose you."
Notes:
- God saved me from marrying into this weird family
- I want the future husband be strong and confident to take the decision and standup for him
- I want the husband such that I am proud of him
What was wrong in him?
- He didn't stood up for me
He should have told that yes this is the girl I want to marry. I deserved this answer yes I broke it in rush but I deserved a better guy in the life and not life him. I deserved better I am worth an effort.
But I don't regret being friends with him. I mean he is good to be friend but not to be an husband. He was all respectful well-mannered and amiable but not courageous to fight for me or take any decision.
